‘Good communication in family needs to be strengthened’
| Date :03-Jun-2019 |
By Vikas Vaidya;
Caring for parents, respect for everybody, honesty, sacrifice, communication, bringing others up, understanding their needs are some of the values that most of the heads of the families want to transfer to their children. ‘The Hitavada’ talked to some of the prominent personalities of Nagpur to know their views on ‘What are the family values they would like to transmit to their children?’ Dr Madan Kapre, a well-known ENT Surgeon expressed his views where he focussed on three important points. “We are at transition and have to pass the values to the next generation.
Caring for the parents, upholding the moral values in Indian ethos and making sacrifices at all levels to keep family together, not becoming self-centric are what I want to transfer to my children,” said Dr Kapre. While elaborating the issue, a 68 year Dr Kapre pointed out, “Care for the family is very important. Upholding the moral values means -- they should always speak truth, they should not run behind money, they should be humble. I always say, ‘It is not what car you drive that matters but what really matters is who stops for you when you wait at the bus stop’.
Next generation is different as they always want to live in comfort zone. We are at transition where I have to pass on the values to the next generation.” “When our system, environment are not supporting, it is a difficult task to tell our children about the values. But this is the right time also as we can imbibe those values in them effectively. We should be able to tell them that they should try to bring others up than pulling them down,” explained Razia Husain, Principal of MSB Education Society. Husain, who is 60 years old stated, “I want to transmit family culture to next generation. The values like honesty, modesty, respect, though come in the category of general values, our society is going away from those too. I want my children to fulfill others’ needs without others putting demand.
This virtue is very important.” Prince Uppal, 66 years old has been running business very successfully with with complete honesty. Howsoever with the busy schedule he has, he always makes it a point to have one meal with family. “Having food together is an important virtue. I pray God and thank him for making me able to transmit the moral values to my children. If our morals are not good then our children too learn bad things. It is time for us to build our nation full of moral values,” commented Uppal.
Dr Meenakshi Ghadge, a well-known medical doctor whose daughter, did CA and now working in top class bank at Mumbai expressed that mother spend more time with her children and they are influenced by her. “Children emulate the things which we do. If we imbibe good things in them they would use those in their life. They have their own thoughts but basic principles like respect, modesty, honesty are to be hammered constantly and they should get to see those in our behaviour,” said Dr Ghadge. “Have a bold communication with them, teach them to focus on their goals, they should be able to take responsibility, they should have discipline in their life, and the foremost important thing is they should love themselves,” pointed out Dr Ghadge.
Elaborating her views Dr Ghadge said, “I tell my daughter not seek respect because of the seniority or knowledge. Nagging the children is very bad. Communication plays a vital role. Forcing our thoughts upon them is not good. Thoughts should be exchanged through proper manner. We should not start judging them. I can proudly say my daughter is my best friend. My husband teaches her how to focus on goal, at the same time she should not have stress out of it.” Dr Tinu Agrawal is a proud mother of Shrinabh who came third in the country in ICSE examination whose results were declared recently. “We follow all joint family values. He gets to stay with his grandparents who perform Sanskars on him. He learned discipline, honesty from grandfather. In our home we celebrate all the festivals not only with fervour but with their traditional importance.
We make it a point that our child should take part in every management of the festival. He joins Pandit during the Puja and stays there for longer time. I want him to learn without making any complaint. These things teaches him perseverence, quench for knowledge, patience, etc. We read books so he does. We don’t want him to eat outside food for which I prepare every food item at home that is sold in eating joints. We don’t watch TV, except during dinner time that too only the quality programmes. We all share every minute details of our life with each other. These sharing creates the bonding among all the family members.”