Q. I am going to appear for class 10th exams and I have to register into an entrance test institute like before Mar 14. I am confused about institutes as I want to pursue car designing as career. I’m not good at maths, so I think 10 + 2 in science then 5 years integrated course in the same in DYPDC will begood option. Kindly guide meabout integrated course.
Ans. This is a good question. Sometimes a student can feel stuck in an integrated course at some point and then there is no choice left but to complete it and get out. In general courses you have the option of getting out after graduation and opt for another course for post-graduation. This way the graduation degree is assured in four years and the choice of the next step remains open. In an integrated course you will exit with the dual degree of both grad and post-grad. If you are hundred percent sure of your choice of car design as well as the college you mention, it can be a good option to get admitted. Do make up your mind first and then find out the reviews of the college and go ahead. One important point is your level of aptitude in maths, do verify it before proceeding with your career. Get an aptitude test done. We can help you with that. XYZ
Q. I feel bad when my parents praise my sister and compare her to me. Ifeel my parents don’t love me and this makes me fightover petty reasons. Myfamily has noticedmybehaviour and scold me for it, this makes me feel bad. I know my sister is better than me in many ways and I want to be a good girl too. My friends asked me to write to you, please help me.
Ans. Most times parents favour the kid that behaves well and respects and listens to them and other elders. The academic aspect is also important but that can be ignored if the behaviour is good. You say that you are a good student and even then they favour your sister. That must be due to her better behaviour than yours. I wonder what could be the reason for your irritation and anger with family members at home. Please do reflect back and find out the reasons as to what irritates you and when your emotions went negative as well as your behaviour. There must be a starting point when you began to feel bad about yourself and you began to compare yourself with your sister. Your parents might have said or done something to that effect to impact you and your reactions would have started. Then matters escalate if not sorted out in your mind as well as with others.To make a beginning talk politely and calmly with your mother or father about your problems and how you feel about the comparison and that you would like to behave well and be a good girl. Please listen to whatthey have to say about youverypatientlywithoutreactionsandyouwilllearnaboutmany issues from listening to them. Promise them that you try your best to improve and express your love for them. You will certainly feel better and happier once things are sorted out and the air is clear. S D
Q. I like a girl in my class and she is smart, good looking and has a beautiful smile, All boys want to be her friend, but she keeps away from most people. She smiled at me once and since then I am upset. Please help me, I know this is silly!
Ans. Aha! This is interesting phenomena! One smile and you go flat! That must have been a random smile on your lucky day and better not to read too much into it. If she has all the plus points and hence much in demand from other boys you may not stand much chance unless you have some punch too! She is going to be a snob toward off people and if she is choosy, shewould have some strong convictions about whom she would like to make friends with. It is good to be choosy and careful about picking friends for they make our character. I think the girl has all good qualities and has much sense too into her little head and has high aims and dreams in her life. She aims to go places and hence not waste her time in silly friendships. You might want to live up to her expectations to desire her and woo her. Otherwise forget the pipe dream.
By RITA AGGARWAL,
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