■ By RITA AGGARWAL
(Consulting Psychologist) :
Q. I am a 15 year-old female, currently in standard
tenth. I wanted your guidance for choosing a career.
I am interested in Data Sciences and Coding, NDA
and at the same time I like Philosophy and Psychology
too. I am very confused as to what I should pursue
ahead. I'm financially not strong, so I want to start
earning something as soon as possible to help my
parents. Please help me!
Ans. I am glad to know that you are seriously thinking of
your career. You are confused as you have diverse interests. All careers mentioned are very good choices to make,
whether it is Data Science, Psychology, Philosophy or
NDA! This is a little bit difficult for me to tell you what you
should choose for I do not know the level of the aptitude/
ability in each field. Also, I do not know the level of your
interest in rank order, in all these areas. Also, you have
an urgency to start earning as fast as you can and some
careers take more number of years, such as Psychology
would take long years. The best way would be to get an
aptitude assessment done, followed by guidance and counselling. You could contact me for an appointment.
Q. I've always been an outgoing and social person,
but lately, something inside me has shifted. It started with a general sense of unease, which gradually
grew into a paralysing fear of social interactions.
I'd find any excuse to avoid parties, gatherings, or
even one-on-one conversations with friends and family. My heart would race, and my palms would sweat
at the mere thought of socialising. It wasn't that I
didn't want to be with people; it was the irrational
fear of being judged or embarrassing myself that
held me back. This anxiety seeped into every aspect
of my life. I started missing work meetings, and my
performance suffered. Even going to the market
became a dreaded task. I felt isolated, trapped in my
own mind. Finally, I decided I couldn't go on like
this. I sought help from a therapist who diagnosed
me with social anxiety disorder. Do I need medicines
as well as I have not totally recovered from it.
Ans. If the anxiety levels are high and the panic attacks
are frequent, which obstruct your functioning in work
and social situations, then you might consider medicines
as well, along with your therapy sessions. Do not stop the
therapy sessions and take the medicines too to lead a full
and functioning life. You might consider talking to your
therapist about making some changes in your lifestyle
and routine habits. Simple things in the routine will go a
long way, such as, going for a walk daily, or the gym, doing
a bit of yoga/breathing exercises and meditating with positive affirmations. Journaling is also a good method to
handle your negative thoughts which generate the anxiety. Keep going, you are doing well.
(Consulting Psychologist) :
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