‘Improve your personality’

Q. I am 20 year- old girl. I am in a relationship since past three years. I have a boyfriend we are from same city, but for certain months we stayed in long distance relationship, we do trust each other a lot, he loves me a lot so do I, but we do have arguments, small fights. I am little emotional he understands this, but when we fight I just keep on crying and after certain level of argument I start self- harming such as hair pulling or banging my head, throwing things and scratching hands and ..

‘Live with dignity’

My life is miserable and I remain depressed. I have tried many things but my luck is bad. I was a teacher and have worked all my life. I am a strong woman and have struggled a lot in my life. Things were better and my husband’s business was doing well. My life changed after my husband suddenly died due to a heart condition. I am a widow living with my son and daughter in law (DIL). My husband willed the property to my only son, which was not told to me. He has left a small amount for my maintenance ..


A blood-curdling scream shattered the calm stillness of the cold night, shaking everybody in the neighbourhood out of slumber. And then everything fell silent. No stirring. No movement, except the sound of hurrying steps crunching on the gravel on the road. The next morning, however, brought to light two mutilitated and almost naked bodies -- one of a woman and the other of a man -- with blood having dried on their torn skins. They were such a fine couple, very friendly, very helpful..

The truth-seekersof Pakistan

I n Pakistan, something is happening, worthy of attention in India. Though forming a very small minority, some members of Pakistani intelligentsia are asking questions, raising issues, daring authorities, even mocking people in power. They are making right noises, even though in the high-strung Pakistani society, they run the risk of being blamed and banned for blasphemy -- or even treason -- besides risking their lives. No matter the high-risk factors, these people are refusing to stop talking, asking ..

‘Career choices’

Q. I feel scared and nervous going to college. I want to leave my studies and do art work. I like to paint and sketch and cook. I hate college. The teachers are not good and shout at students. They always say ‘you will fail and remain uneducated’. They curse and use bad words. It’s not a good college. My parents want me to continue but at home I am happy, except when my parents get angry and upset and force me. I don’t know what to do and how to convince them. Please help me decide and what to tell ..

The grand truth of India’s ancient cultural nationalism... And the myth of Brtish-led unity

The little boy stood all naked in the bathroom enjoying the warm water his mother was pouring on him, his ears taking in the Sanskrit verse imagining that the water from the brass bucket was a mix of waters from India’s seven holy rivers -- Ganga, Yamuna, Godawari, Saraswati, Narmada, Sindhu, and Cauvery. To the culturally uninitiated, the verse may appear like a poet’s imagination. But millions upon millions of Indians have found the words inscribed indelibly on their heads and hearts. No accurate ..


V ictory was already in India’s kitty -- though formal document of surrender would come in a few hours. Assured of all correct details, General Sam Manekshaw entered the office of Prime Minister Mrs. Indira Gandhi, offered her a kadak salute, smiled cautiously and said in a formal tone, ‘Prime Minister, we have achieved our purpose. Official surrender will follow’. Mrs. Indira Gandhi responded with a controlled smile and said, ‘Thank you General. My congratulations’. Unprecedented nationwide celebrations ..

CAUTION & CO-OPERATION, necessary elements of India-B’Desh ties

Fifty years ago, on December 16, 1971, the signing of the historic Instrument of Surrender paved way for the birth of a new nation Bangladesh. Soon, the world’s map changed. The region’s geography changed. As years passed by, geopolitical situation evolved, throwing open a plethora of issues that having a bearing on the regional dynamics. In the Swarnim Vijay ..

A People’s War With Mission & Ambition For Liberation Of Homeland

FLASHBACK TO ‘DECADE OF WARS’ (1962-1971) is replete with three COMPREHENSIVE WARS namely (1) 1962, Chinese intrusion into Indian territory, (2) 1965, IndiaPakistan war (3) 1971, Bangladesh war. While the first two were out & out ‘Territory grabbing’ misdeeds of China and Pakistan respectively, the third one was quite distinct with different characteristics. It was indeed a people’s war with a mission and ambition for liberation of their homeland. Let us ponder over the anatomical details of the 1971 ..


The 1971 India-Pakistan War, or Bangladesh Liberation War, is also referred to as ‘The Lightning Campaign’. For, since the first direct military confrontation began on December 3, 1971, it took only 13 days for the war to end. The war, which saw a well-synchronised action of forces from the Indian side, came to an end on December 16, 1971, with the Pakistani General Lt Gen AAK Niazi signing the ‘Instrument of Surrender’ in Dacca in presence of Indian General Lt Gen J S Aurora. To understand how the ..

Vijay Diwas is the biggest victory in the history of India

Both India and Bangladesh celebrate 16 December as ‘Vijay Diwas’ when Pakistan Army was defeated in 1971 war. This was a Two Phased War, that is, first, the Guerrilla Operations by RAW and second, direct intervention by Indian Army on December 3,1971. Prior to the December 1970 elections in Pakistan, RAW sources inside army, political and diplomatic circle of Pakistan had given clear indications that in case Sheikh Mujibur Rahman got a majority he would not be allowed to rule Pakistan. Suddenly Pak ..

‘Men and women’

Shubreet Kaur Q. I had an affair 10 years ago, we were in a relation. He broke with me due to incompatibility, I got married, but divorced due to domestic violence and other issues. Recently, I saw him on social media and contacted him. He is not responding to my messages but stalking, even my message box is full with messages like,missyour ex,doyoustillloveyour exfromunknown sources.Ionlywantedtoresolve somemisunderstandingthat’s whyI contacted,butIdon'twanthimasboyfriendagain.What will be the right ..

‘Career needs detailed planning’

Q. Right now, I am studying in Std 12 and a JEE aspirant also. I am a good student, I scored 85% in 10th CBSE Board and was really happy. Also I thought that I will complete 11th & 12th and get admission in a good collage. I knew it was tough, but I was having confidence that I will work hard and will clear JEE. But the problem started when the education system came on the online platform. Firstly, it was very boring and as the time passed I started losing interest in studies. I tried, but there ..

The scripters of India’s true story, real glory

Y ears ago, when some of them started swimming, they were doing so against the current. They were only a handful, mostly mocked at by the larger society. Regardless, they persisted -- eventually attracting others, too, to join the difficult and even lonely swim. All they had in their favour was faith, an unshakable one. On its strength, they kept fighting the tide. Their numbers swelled slowly but surely. And in time, the current, too, changed its direction. Today, they swim in the direction of the ..

Happy resurgence of true sports culture

“Vijay aapke sar par nahin chad baithna chahiye, aur parajay aapke hriday mein bas nahin jana chahiye” (Victory should never lord over your head, and defeat should never get lodged in your heart)”. T his wise counsel of Prime Minister Mr. Narendra Modi to Indian sportspersons who just returned from Tokyo Olympics, was not just for that band of 129 national youth icons, but also for every Indian in every field. Stay always tuned in and tuned up for your cause, he meant to say. This statement was directed ..

Rekindling an old flame

R omanticism never operates on the mechanics of objectivity. It blooms in a glow of delirium that a magical moment throws up with a sudden spurt. This nation of romantics experienced that moment in Tokyo when life tip-toed into an old flame to rekindle a love affair that India has had with the game of hockey. That intimacy is back with a Bronze! Love has blossomed, yet again. The Bronze medal Indian men’s hockey team has earned to end an excruciating pain of over four decades in Olympics has the potential ..

‘Be intelligent and wise’

Ravi, Jabalpur. Q. I was engaged to be married since a year. Now my fiancé is saying no to marriage. She does not like me and likes someone else. I don’t know if the friendship is new or old. She was talking very nicely to me earlier. Recently I see her change her style and language. She has made utter fool of me. I love her and want to bring her back. Her family has sent message to us to wait for some time. I am losing sleep and losing interest in my job and work. How can she do this to me? I was ..

‘Contact Cyber Cell’

Q. I have known this for some time now. My mother has been cheating on my father. She has had many affairs over the years of which some were friends and some relatives. I can't understand what’s the problem with her. I even talked about this to her and she herself didn't know the answer. She keeps apologising to me about her past and I even decided to forgive her as I don't know what is the exact cause. But she drew the wrong conclusion to this and maybe she thinks I am supporting her to make new ..

Where has the joy of learning gone?

T his is how Robert Louis Stevenson captured the entire gamut of issues relating to learning and education and its purpose. The core idea of education is to allow every child an opportunity and scope to learn what he or she wishes to do -- in life. Another dimension to the method and manner of education is to help the child find life’s purpose -- by offering him or her the scope to do things of his or her choice. And then, there is yet another dimension that is far more crucial to the element of joy ..

All careers are wonderful

Q. Hello mam. My daughter is currently doing her masters in clinical psychology. In future she wants to work as a professor and also wants to practice counselling in clinical setup as a part time job. But her first priority is to become a professor. She is preparing for NET as well. After completing her masters what shall she do first? MPhil or PhD? What would be better? Also, without RCI licence, can she practice as a psychologist in any hospital or other clinics?..

‘Do what the situation demands’

Anonymous Q. I have been reading your columns in ‘The Hitavada’ newspaper for quite some time and they have been very interesting and helpful. I was recently promoted to Class 12 (PCM). I used to be a good student and got very good results in Class 10th. But in Class 11th, with the pandemic going on and studies going online, I completely lost..

‘Lead your own life’

Q. I am from Chhattisgarh pursuing B.Sc Computer Science. My problem is that my mother is in an extra-marital affair since 6 months. I have listened to her conversations with that man and she don't know this. She confidently chit chat with him all day long and gets irritated if we ask her to do some work. She blindly believes the man and do whatever he says. I also talked to him over the phone when my mother requested me. She told me that they are good friends and know each other since childhood. ..

‘Psychology and Psychiatry’

Q. I want to pursue Psychology after 12th grade. I'll get promoted to 12th standard this year and want to know about courses that I can opt for. I wanted advice if I should pursue MBBS first and then go for Psychology, or directly do a B.Sc. in Psychology after passing 12th standard? Are there any other courses I can opt for, since I have knowledge about B.Sc. course only? I request you to please guide me. Thank you...

‘Do a reality check’

S D, Bhilai Q. I passed engineering a few years ago. I lost my good job during Corona and now with difficulty I found another one which is not in line with my specialty. I don’t enjoy the work; I work from home and they load it all on me. I hate it and want to leave it, but my family wants me to continue to suffer because of the money. Every day I have fights and I am feeling stressed and depressed. They shoot me down and ask me to continue. I hate everyone for doing this to me. Can you guide me, ..

Trust issues

Q. I am confused about my situation. I was very good friends with a guy in college. But when he cheated on me, I broke all contact. But the girl he was dating then, was cheating on him. And I told him the same. We became very close again after that. Months passed: he told me that they broke up. I asked him to show me the chat on his phone. But he refused. I got hurt but I trusted him again thinking that he needs some space and privacy.This time my feelings for him were not that strong because I was ..

Cyber Terrorism: China’s New Weapon Against India

The series of cyber attacks on financial capital Mumbai, National Stock Exchange (NSE), on the IT systems of two coronavirus vaccine-makers Serum Institute of India (SII) and Bharat Biotech in the last few months was assertion of China’s asymmetric warfare changing gears even as troops of both the countries go through the disengagement process at friction points in eastern Ladakh. ..

Non-State Surveillance And End Of Privacy

Often one hears of X or Y nationState turning into a ‘Surveillance State’ or ‘police state’. The activists vociferous about the use of these terms often are associated with groups that come up with reports projecting one or the other country as acting against privacy of people or suppressing the so-called democratization of data. However, none of these activists sadly raise the question as to ‘who’ is helping such nation-States with technologies used in ‘surveillance’? Here comes the role of non-State ..

‘Social media predators on the prowl’

Q. I am in a friendship with a boy for 2.5 years. He is an influencer.We were communicating on social media, because of our jobs at different places.We broke due to misunderstanding and then again we reconciled. But I'm not close with him like before as I'm upset with the past damage. But suddenly I feel someone is stalking. Worst is requests for sex, physical relationship etc. I’m a decent girl. My friend is the culprit? Why is he doing so?..

‘Thrash out the differences’

Q. I love a girl and want to marry her. She is from another caste and family is conservative. I am scared to tell her, but I know she knows that I love her. Her friends tease her with my name. She is the best girl in the world and she is best for me. I cannot think of anyone else, I have been liking her and loving her from many years. How to proceed further is the biggest problem. What if she rejects me, the fear of which leaves me with a broken heart. Please help me. I don't have a brother or sister ..